Simple topics and discussions hopefully turning into a small devotional or video journal.
Tuesday, December 1, 2015
VERBALIZING your GOALS tells you they're ACCOMPLISHED!?
What do you think? I would love some thoughts and opinions...
Other resources:
https://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_keep_your_goals_to_yourself
Tuesday, November 17, 2015
Living Inside Out!!
There are a lot of people who are still talking about the movie Inside Out!! I had the chance to see it when it came out in theaters and was inspired to write this amazing blog about how the we all needs to gain a better understanding of how to expresses themselves or use their emotions appropriately. This being said I apologize as I let time get the better of me. Through the courses I have been taking at school as well as the course of my years as an adult, I have come to realize a few things: There is a time and place for everything (see Eccl. 3) discussing my fears or emotions is one thing, while conquering them is another. It may seem obvious when you put it in such plain words, but as much as I thought I knew this I guess I thought writing about it was how I could deal with it. While writing about what I am going through may inspire me to change or help me come up with ideas to do so, but it will not necessarily solve the problem unless I allow it to.
Living Inside Out!!
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (NIV)
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace."
Titus 3:9-10
9 Do not argue with people about foolish questions and about the Law. Do not spend time talking about all of your early fathers. This does not help anyone and it is of no use. 10 Talk once or twice to a person who tries to divide people into groups against each other. If he does not stop, have nothing to do with him.
There was a time in life where I unknowingly was believing a lie or only half of the truth: "If God's got everything in control then life's great. What reason do we have to complain?" Often people (myself included) think that those who complain are annoying. They judge them for what they see on the surface rather than ask if they are ok or simply come down to earth and just listen. Within the last year I have found for me it is easier to process or think through problems externally. Now I may not want to, but if not, I will bottle it up. Instead I should leave the cap loose if not off, so as to not later burst all at once. Now, I am not saying we should complain all the time, but it's ok to cry every now and then and learn how to express yourself appropriately. Take the movie "Inside Out" for example. The whole movie was built around the fact that the little girl was doing all she could not to cry, when in the end crying was a way to release all the unnecessary tension in her body. Now I do not cry as often as I should. It is as if I feel there is usually something wrong with me if I am. There are also times when it is best to talk or simply vent with someone and there are times you just need to cry and that is ok. So look at it this way. The next time someone pisses you off there may be something going on under the surface. This is not always the case and they may not even want to talk about it; however, instead of jumping to conclusions, stop and say maybe they are hurting. Even if they are not, what good is it to add fire to the fire. Put it out with water instead and try to fight heat with kindness. Life is easy. People make it difficult.
In the pilot of Friday Night Lights, Coach Taylor says, "Every man at some point in his life is gonna lose a battle. But what makes him a man is that in the midst of the battle, he does not lose himself." It is just like the saying, it's not the mistake, but how you deal with it. From the world’s perspective, how we deal with life is often determined by our emotional state; however, it doesn't have to be. It all comes down to finding the appropriate use for our emotions. As stated before in "Inside Out" she finally gave in at the end and used sadness to express herself when she had no other option. Have you ever seen the commercials for allergy medicine where the picture starts off fuzzy and then later the fog is lifted? Now, when I say God has everything in control it has a deeper meaning. I don’t just brush it off and say everything is ok. I do my best to stop, pray, and think about what I should do in the midst of my everyday life. It was as if I was looking through a cloud and all of a sudden it was just lifted and the colors around me were heightened and I saw everything anew. I try to think more positively or if I get stuck in the mud ask God to provide a way out of it. Sometimes we all need to cry or step out of our comfort zone to heal. Sometimes he will do it on his own or through others, while other times the answer to prayer comes through actions. It's not always easy to express yourself and society's expectations don't make it any easier, so rid yourself from any preconceived ideas or intentions of how to go about it and just try it. You will never really know until you do. As we see in the scriptures it says to cast your cares and concerns upon the Lord. There are many ways of expressing yourself. Just because you are using something someone else wrote does not make you weak, it's still your voice so let it be heard.
Tuesday, November 3, 2015
Fail or Success
Saturday, September 12, 2015
Confession
Confession relationships have not always been my strong suit. Yes I'm great at building friendships, but what I am referring to is a relationship with the opposite sex. In my family, my age group is the next to get married, so it is a topic I have been thinking about a lot lately. I've only been in one relationship, but it did not end well.
My first year of College I saw a great spiritual need, but not many outlets to offer help. I was ministering to others so much there were times I forgot to take care of myself and was drawn into the attention I was receiving from guys. At first it was simply conversational, but then lead to a friendship and it was not until it was too late that I realized I had a problem. I thought I was putting the needs of the other first. I had the right intentions, but let my emotions get the better of me. I looked to man instead of God. As Mike Donehey puts it, "When I realize I don't want that thing
[, but] it's really the one who made that thing [or person] that's the one my soul longs for I can trust Christ [with my life]."
Marriage is more than a simple companionship. It is a relationship with one another designed to glory God by showing the full image of Christ. If dating is practice for marriage, how can we know our role if we don't know who we are in Christ? I love how the movie Not Easily Broken ends, "God didn't make me to be a husband [wife], coach, or daddy [mommy]. These are just titles not who we are as men [women]. But I guess, sometimes he has to let life turn you upside-down so you can learn how to live right side up". To be honest for the longest time I always thought I was a Tomboy or one of the so called, "tough girls". It's not so much that I liked to hang around guys. In fact I avoided guys until my Junior year of High School. It was as if I saw them to be "fairly useless and unhelpful" as Courtney Reissig says in her book, Accidental Feminist. I was also afraid of doing anything girly as if it would make me seem weak. Culture has many stereotypes on the roles men and women play in both the world and home. It doesn't make any girl/guy less or more of a girl/guy if you do or don't do the things every girl/guy does. As long as you are being yourself and are not afraid of who you are that's all that matters. So don't hold back just be yourself no matter what others think. If someone doesn't like it that's their problem. Besides all that really matters is what God thinks of you right?
I didn't know what true love was until I knew who I was in Christ or what I really wanted. I sought after affection and comfort from others to fill what only God could. Then coming from a broken relationship I believed a lie that the broken relationship was all I knew; that I couldn't love and wondered if I ever did. I began to learn that as C.S. Lewis puts it, "humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." I've had a rough start and I don't know about you, but I want to start new, to save myself for someone special and I'd go as far to say till marriage. I have no problem with falling in love with my best friend and wouldn't mind if he loved God more than me. There is more to a relationship than the physical and sometimes all it takes is to really get to know yourself before you know what you have to offer or even what you want. So who are you really and are you believing a lie keeping you from seeing the real you, (who God made you to be) and how does that affect your relationships?
Sources:
I Suck, You Suck, Let's Date! Tyler Ward
Sex Tips (my hope for young women) Tyler Ward:
Where Life Will Never Die Mike Donehey
Beloved: The Last Supper - Mike Donehey
Other Resources:
Why It's so Important to Marry a Godly Man!!
Don't Settle When You're Dating Jefferson Bethke:
Monday, April 13, 2015
Fear God or Man
“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?"
We are to fear God not man. We should not be afraid of God, but we should fear Him in reverence to who he is as Job learned to do. Fear can promote humility with the appropriate response!! Don't get me wrong, fear is not of God; however overcoming fear is not accomplished without humility. Too often are we clouded by pride. When we fear we feel vulnerable and vulnerability reminds us of our mistakes. Overcoming our fears allow us to Trust God and fear him rather than man.
In the movie, Batman, the first thing he is told to do in his training is to rid himself of all his fears. In fact he gives himself a name from which he most fears, bats. This year I made a goal to overcome all my fears. First thought, I just didn't want anyone to have anything to use against me. While it’s not for everyone, for me it turned into a way to give of my all to God. I thought maybe I watch too much TV for no one was out to get me, but Why should I let any fear keep me from carrying out a plan God has for me? There are plenty of fears people have, but don't we really just fear ourselves? We are man as well and we are to fear God not man no? Hard is not impossible it is silly not easy. It is only as hard as you make it. When overcoming something when I try to fight it I find myself making up excuses. At church last Sunday my pastor pointed out that: often when we find excuses come easy is when God wants us to do something and just trust Him. When we step out of our comfort zone we become very vulnerable and the first thing that seems to be in check is our pride. Sweating blood before death on the cross, Christ may have been scared, but he was not reluctant to carry out God's will. Through this not only do I begin to find greater freedom with the Lord, but greater peace with myself as well.
When we become comfortable with vulnerability is when God can use us the most. We find hope when we cling to the knowledge that freedom comes after the fight. Or as it says in the scriptures, “The battle is already won”. Too often do I struggle with the fear of making a mistake, but how will we know unless we try. For the longest time I hated doing anything in front of anyone: singing, public speaking, even just speaking up in class or small groups I worried I would say something wrong and now look where I am. I began to see that many fears are based on a lack of good knowledge or understanding or bad/false experience. Remember as Job learned to Fear God not Man. Fear is a powerful tool. It can either bring you up reminding you to be humble or tear you down when you focus on your flaws. So which do you choose? Do u fear God or Man?
~Thanks
#Kalei #Blogs #Fear #Misunderstood
Sources Used:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mZL2tAWcGj8&list=PLrq5kfc63lHdyJ7sHMNwKKqGXmMO4G-OA&index=2
Monday, March 2, 2015
Community
Genesis 1:26
“Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”
We all live and learn. I could go on and on about all the pain I have been through; anger management as a young child, the suicidal death of a friend my sophomore year of High School, and about a year ago went to the funeral of a daughter I went to Highschool with and her mother. I have had my fair share of pain and it has not always been an easy road, but it has only made me stronger. Experience has taught me that it's not what you've been through, but how you respond and we were not meant to do it alone, but live in community. Looking back I would say that while hard may not be easy and neither is it impossible, in order to overcome the situation there are times others are needed for guidance. Yes, there are times we can do it ourselves and in no way should we be lazy, but there comes a point when you need to seek the counsel of others.
Striving to live up to my fullest potential not letting any fear stand in the way of God's calling has recently taught me patience and humility. The funny thing is I never really knew it was something I lacked, until I made it a goal to overcome all my fears. I have always told myself I could do better, try harder, or dream bigger, but never really followed through with it. We can do ALL things through Christ who gives [us] strength as seen in Philippians 4:13; however sometimes being able to do"all things" means seeking help from others and asking for help requires humility. We were all called to teach each other and come together with both our weaknesses and strengths as followers of Christ just as Mike points out. God is a triune God or a community; therefore, as the body of Christ we are as well and not an island!! I have always thought of myself as tough, but I have come to realize is sometimes it gets to me and I begin to put on layer after layer masking myself from the help I may very well need. Not really as to say I am perfect, but more a twisted version of the truth as I sometimes tell myself, "If I have God who else do I need?".
Monday, January 19, 2015
Forgiveness
Note: There are those who debate whether or not we are to forgive someone if they do not accept our forgiveness. For sometime I did not understand it until someone said, "blatantly forgiving someone who sinned against you, and they do not repent and accept it, is the same as accepting the sin to be ok." In other words forgiving someone is not accepting what they did, but rather that you are willing to forgive them are praying for them digitally. All this while being patient and not holding a grudge against them if they do not repent.
Romans 2:4
"Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God's kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?"
Matthew 5:43-47 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that?”
Psalm 103: 12 "As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
We may not always be able to forget, but that does not give us permission to hold a grudge against anyone. I looked up the word forgive in hopes of finding a connection between forgive and forget and all I got was "the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven." The old English was forgiefan or forgiefenes means to give, bestow, cause, deliver, grant, or inflict. It is almost like saying forgiveness is a gift or at least in the old English that is. So to forgive those who did you or your loved ones wrong is a gift someone bestows upon someone else. My point in all this is that the family who had this death was very humble and through help from others began to turn it around and pray for the person who attacked their family instead of returning it with vengeance. Now do not get me wrong, sure what they did may have been wrong, but why get caught up in it? We all make mistakes, so why let that determine how we treat ourselves or others? Christ took the place of Barabbas, a thug, and murderer, through death on the cross. Christ, Lord and man who came and lived a blameless life and died for a ruthless sinner, for all sinners past, present, and future by death on a cross. Now that is what I call true love. It may be hard and they may not even accept it, but in the long run forgiveness is more worth it than grief or vengeance.
~Thanks
Souces:
Jesus is Loving Barabbas
God is not an Elephant Mike Donehey:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U-mNFhHafjM
The Chair Mike Donehey:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N4UDgKqY3EE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lDcTvtuuVU8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n9J6xOT3Ldw